Should I ask her out in my first message if her prompt says so?

Usually not in the very first line. She wants a guy who plans, but a date with no hello feels like a mass message. Show interest first and let the plan follow soon after.

How do you reply to “Best way to ask me out is by” on Hinge?

Acknowledge what she wrote with a bit of personality and signal that you're someone who follows through. Being vague about it is as bad as being too fast.

Why do guys get ghosted on this prompt?

Two reasons show up again and again: rushing straight to a date with nothing personal, or asking her to explain an answer that was already clear.

“Best way to ask me out is by”: should you just ask?

I usually write something like name a time and place. I mean it. I'm tired of chats that go on for three weeks and never become a drink.

But I also mean it after we've talked for a minute. If the very first message is a date with zero hello, it feels like he's copy-pasting to everyone.

The sweet spot is a guy who makes me smile first and makes it obvious he's going to follow through.

What I notice.

What gets a reply

He plays with my answer and makes it clear a plan is coming, just not in message one.
He's specific about something real, a neighborhood, a kind of place, so it feels like him and not a template.
He's confident without being pushy. No pressure, just intent.

What I leave on read

He books a date in the first line with nothing about me in it.
He asks what my answer means. It's pretty clear.

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Questions

Should I ask her out in my first message if her prompt says so?: Usually not in the very first line. She wants a guy who plans, but a date with no hello feels like a mass message. Show interest first and let the plan follow soon after.
How do you reply to “Best way to ask me out is by” on Hinge?: Acknowledge what she wrote with a bit of personality and signal that you're someone who follows through. Being vague about it is as bad as being too fast.
Why do guys get ghosted on this prompt?: Two reasons show up again and again: rushing straight to a date with nothing personal, or asking her to explain an answer that was already clear.