TextherReplying to “I'm looking for”
This is the one prompt where I'm kind of serious. Someone who plans the date. Someone who texts back. It sounds basic because it is basic, and still rare.
When a guy replies to it, I'm reading for one thing: does he get that I'm tired, or is he about to tell me he's exactly that?
Telling me you're it doesn't make you it. Showing a little bit of it does.
What I notice.
What gets a reply
- He's light about a heavy prompt. A small joke that still respects what I wrote.
- He asks what made me write it. There's always a story and I kind of want to tell it.
- His message itself does the thing. If I said plans, his text sounds like someone who plans.
What I leave on read
- He says he's exactly what I'm looking for. Everyone says that.
- He turns it into a long paragraph about what he's looking for too.
- He makes fun of my answer for being basic. I know. That's why I wrote it.
Your turn.
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Text three girls nowQuestions
- How do you respond to “I'm looking for” on Hinge?
- Don't claim to be what she's looking for. Either ask what made her write it or let your message quietly show the quality she named.
- Is it bad to open on a serious prompt?
- No. It shows you read the part she cared about. Keep the tone lighter than the prompt so the first text doesn't feel like an interview.
- What turns her off on this prompt?
- Self-promotion. A first message that sells you as the answer reads like every other one she got that day.