“This year, I really want to”: be curious, not a coach
Run a half marathon. I've signed up. I'm scared. It's the thing I think about on every run.
I want replies that treat it like a real thing I'm doing, with a bit of fun. How's it going, am I on track, what's the hardest part.
I don't want a training plan from a stranger.
What I notice.
What gets a reply
- He asks where I'm at with it right now.
- He teases me lightly about the scary part in a way that feels supportive.
- He has a small bet or challenge about it.
What I leave on read
- He gives me advice on how to do it.
- He tells me I've got this. Thanks, I guess.
Your turn.
Three new girls today. Pick a prompt, send what you would really send, and see who replies and what she thought when she read it. Free, no download.
Text three girls nowQuestions
- What do you say to “This year, I really want to”?
- Ask about her progress or the part that scares her. It's something she's actively working on, so questions about it feel personal in a good way.
- Should I give advice if I've done the same thing?
- Not in the first text. Mention that you've done it if you want, then ask her something. Unasked advice reads as coaching.
- Is encouragement enough?
- It's nice but closed. Add a question so she has something to answer.